Solve the Mystery of Living in the Light by Guy Finley

Here’s a true idea that rarely occurs to us. There is a greater potential in what we don’t yet know about this life of ours than there is in what we’ve already seen about it.

This great undiscovered territory–this “darkness” within us–is there for a distinctly Divine purpose: it exists as it does to serve the Light that reveals it; for in each such revelation there is a simultaneous realization and release of a new order of consciousness. There is such beauty in this idea, for it speaks to the possibility of a continual rebirth within us. What this means is that currently we don’t yet see “problems” for what they really are: a part of the Light within us that we have yet to perceive! Any thought or feeling that troubles us in mind or heart, any fear or worry, is like a candle not yet lit. What purpose has any flame or light–in any form we may find it–other than to enter into and transform what is dark into more of itself?

For instance, maybe we turn around one day and find ourselves caught in the dark grip of some kind of fear. Perhaps we see the one we love “looking the other way”; maybe a phone call delivers uncertain news about our deteriorating health; or someone tells us about a forthcoming change at work that threatens our sense of security.

In moments such as these, our future grows as dark and full of the loneliness, worry, and loss we see coming our way. But our lives need not be swallowed up in unconscious servitude to this kind of suffering. We have another choice if we will only dare be still and be the Light. Here now are some ways to practice realizing the truth of your Self. Each case begins with remembering to make the new choice that follows:

* Instead of surrendering yourself to its punishing presence, bring your loneliness into the Light of your Self. If you will remain there within your awareness of this “darkness”,  here’s what you’ll see take place before your inner eyes: the fear of being alone will be transformed into the contentment of knowing that you have never been without the love that you long for. You will see that a tenderness beyond words lives within the
Light you have embraced.

* Bring your fear and worry about “tomorrow” into the Light of your Self. Remain there in your awareness of these frightening shadows, and here’s what will unfold before your inner eyes: you’ll watch these dark doubts dissolve into anunquestioned knowing that no time to come has power over the peace of being in the present moment. You will see that serenity is one with the life of the Light you have chosen to be.

*When visited by some sense of loss or emptiness, bring it into the Light of your Self. Remain quietly attentive to how that dark state wants to drag you into its world, even as you hold it in your awareness, and you’ll see a miracle take place before your inner eyes: that feeling of being forsaken will be transformed into the fullness of knowing that who you really are is wholeness itself. For your willingness to be inwardly watchful, you will see that the Light of your Self reaches everywhere in the universe . . . so how could you ever be alone? All that lives . . . lives within the Light of your Self.

After many years of talking to aspirants about being the Light instead of searching for what they think they need to deal with their dark states, I have found there is one main reason most people won’t take the leap of releasing their fears into the Light that lives within them. They profess a love of the Light, but whenever an unwanted moment appears, and they look into its unknown abyss . . . they see no Light there, only darkness.
Then comes an immediate resistance, and darkness rules the day. Let me shed some light on this problem.
Things are not always as they are seen.

Do you recall the wonderful characters in The Wizard of Oz? Along with Dorothy–who was trying to find her way back home–there was the scarecrow, the tin man, and the cowardly lion: her compatriots on the journey to see the great wizard who would grant each of them their most fervent wish.

The scarecrow wanted a brain, a mind with which to reason and know the truth of things. The tin man hoped for a heart to beat in his hollow tin chest, so that by its warmth and rhythmic beating he would know the presence of the love for which he longed; and the cowardly lion wanted courage to face his fears, to meet any form of darkness with what it takes to defeat it. By the end of the story–largely as a result of what they go through because of their love for Dorothy–each makes this glad discovery: the very quality of character for which they had gone out searching was already living within them!

So it is with us: we have forgotten that who we really are cannot be made a captive of any dark condition any more than a sunbeam can be caught and held in a bottle.

Our True Self is success itself, in every meaning of the word, because by its Light it fulfills and liberates all that it touches.

Never mind all the voices you’ll no doubt hear shouting at you the first time you decide to be the Light of your Self. That which is dark does not go gently through being made new and bright. So there is work involved. But the Light we realize within us never fails; it literally carries us above whatever mountain is before us by revealing it to be nothing other than what we had yet to see about ourselves.

We cannot control the way the world turns, we cannot change day into night, we cannot keep what is not ours; and we cannot hide these facts from ourselves, no matter how hard we try. But what we are given to do, and that turns out to be the one power of ours truly capable of transforming the whole of life, is that we can choose–moment to moment–to be the Light of our Self. We are created as co-creators of all that we can be conscious of within ourselves. It is our right to be in relationship with only those powers whose presence serves our chosen purpose in life

. . . which is to be one with the Light.

(Excerpted from The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, Weiser Books)
Guy Finley is the best-selling author of The Secret of Letting Go, The Essential Laws of Fearless Living, and 35 other works that have sold over a million copies in 18 languages worldwide. His work has been featured on hundreds of radio and TV networks including NBC, CBS, ABC, CNN, NPR, and PBS. Guy has spent the last 30 years showing individuals the authentic path to a higher life filled with happiness, success, and true love. Finley lives and teaches in Merlin, Oregon where he is Director of non-profit Life of Learning Foundation.
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The Beginning of Love

The Beginning of Love

Joel Block, Ph.D.
drblock color pictureThe beginning of love is wonderful. It is the subject of songs and the theme of movies; it has created an industry in fiction writing, the romance novel. But the test of love comes over time, the time beyond the courtship and honeymoon phase. It is in the long-term relationship that our capacity to maintain the vitality and energy of love is challenged.

The Challenge
The challenge goes beyond simply getting along. There are lots of couples who get along but whose relationship lacks spark. Some of these couples have excluded anything controversial from their relationship in an effort to keep the peace. It is a peace that comes with a price.
Not being truly open because it may “stir things up” is precisely the wrong thing to do. The spark comes from being emotionally open in a relationship and allowing the other person to do the same.
Joel D. Block, Ph.D., is an award-winning psychologist practicing couple and sex therapy on Long Island, New York. A Diplomate of the American Board of Professional Psychology, Dr. Block is a senior psychologist on the staff of the North Shore-Long Island Jewish Medical Center and an Assistant Clinical Professor at the Einstein College of Medicine. For 20 years, he was the supervisor of the Sexuality Center at Long Island-Jewish Medical Center. Dr. Block is the author of over 20 books on Love and Sex.

Being Open
Being open requires that we make our feelings known when we talk about things that are important to us and that we stay emotionally connected to our love partner when he or she thinks, feels, and believes differently; we don’t waste our energy trying to change or fix each other.
Yes, creating and maintaining a vibrant love through the process of revealing yourself, warts and all, can be a frightening prospect.

Ditch the Caution
To do otherwise, to play it safe and avoid the risk of being open, or to discourage your partner’s openness because it doesn’t conform to your views is the biggest risk of all. It will, with certainty, drain the relationship and leave it empty. The excitement of the early days will become a distant memory to be mourned. This is so because the liveliness of love relationships, the very core energy of love, is fed by the openness that comes from the heart. Real love involves opening your soul to the person you love.

The Need for Approval
It’s ironic that people who are sharing their lives are often less open with each other than they are with other people who are not as important to their lives. And therein lies the rub. It is because a person is important in our life that we become guarded. Their view of us matters more; they are central to our lives, and we want their validation. We want to avoid their disapproval.
We want them to see things our way, especially those things that are dear to us. If one is excited by a movie, he or she wants the other to be excited as well. If one has a difficult experience and is upset, and the other is not, that may cause a problem; one or both feel the other is reacting improperly. If one feels like sex and the other doesn’t there is resentment.
The demand is, “feel like me, think like me and behave like me.” But we are each different and may feel differently, think differently and behave differently at times. Demanding otherwise doesn’t work!

Which are You?
When I go into a restaurant and glance at the couples, there’s a palpable difference in energy levels. Some couples are animated; others are staring past each other. Often the energized couples are dating and the stale couples are married. The married couples have already talked about the kids and gossiped…there’s not much left they’re willing to get into.
They’re playing it safe—and that is the problem. In order to avoid their partner’s disapproval they’ve eliminated the energy and passion from the relationship. Playing it safe, their solution, has become the problem!

Reach Out
Does your relationship have that dating energy of the early days, or has it been whittled down to topics that are safe? Not sure? Ask your partner!

How to tell if your awake or asleep

 Seems like a pretty easy thing to do, right? How can someone not tell
the difference between being asleep or being awake?

Well, the scary thing is that it is incredibly hard to tell!

And if you're asleep, you might just be dreaming a long, long dream.
So in case you can't tell if you're asleep or awake, here are a few
pointers to help you out.

You're still "asleep" if you:

* Feel unfulfilled, as if a huge piece is missing from your life

* Find yourself frustrated that a certain 'want' has not yet manifested
in your life
* Have regrets about things that have happened you in the past.

* Are still searching for your life's purpose

If any one of those points describes you, then chances are you're still
asleep. And the truth of the matter is that MOST people are still asleep.

So it's time to WAKE UP...

Most of us have been sleep-walking our entire lives and never get to
wake up to who we are and our unique gifts.

But we've been blessed with an extraordinary wake up call. It's called
The Awakening and it's an incredible 3-part process developed by
consciousness expert, Arjuna Ardagh (he's studied awareness and
consciousness for 4 decades).

Discover how to WAKE UP over here >>

This process of Awakening has been hailed by people such as John
Assaraf, Gay and Katie Hendricks, Bill Harris, Marianne Williamson,
and countless others.

Find out how to experience Awakening over here

The most wonderful thing about the Awakening is that you can experience
it within minutes! Check it out. I know it will open you up to some amazing

Finer Minds

How to Master your Appreciation Vibration Written by Jafree Ozwald

Experiencing a continuous appreciation for yourself, the world and everyone in it is the super highway to opening your manifesting powers, and connecting with the highest cosmic consciousness in the Universe.  When your appreciation valve (in your heart) is 100% open for 24 hours in a row, extra little miracles start popping up all over your life! Try giving appreciation to everything you see, touch, taste, smell and hear for one day. One day, all day long, see if you can do it! This little practice is one of the most effective ways to becoming the master of your destiny. When you are in a constant state of gratitude you are communicating with the Universe from your higher mind, which allows you to be guided to receive your soul's dream life!! 

"Understand the obstructions you are putting in the way of love, freedom, and happiness and they will drop. Turn on the light of awareness and the darkness will disappear. Happiness is not something you acquire; love is not something you produce; love is not something you have; love is something that has you."
~Anthony de Mello

Being in a constant state of appreciation is the ultimate goal of life. If you are challenged in the gratitude department you're not alone. Many don't know the secret to this ideal experience. It's like finding a diamond filled gold mine! First start paying attention to whatever the little things you don't appreciate at all. Find that which you are honestly thankful for and return to that thought and feeling as often as possible. Make a game of it! See how many times in a 5 minutes you can crank up your Gratitude Barometer and re-ignite that blissful state inside. Whenever you find that honest appreciation feeling for anything, or anyone, stay connected with it and within it. Soon it will grow and evolve into a habit of gratitude that includes even those things you never imagined you could ever possibly appreciate.

"The richest person is the one who is contented with what he has." ~Robert C. Savage

When you take the risk to appreciate what your mind cannot appreciate, an awesome expansive feeling begins building within your being. Whatever it is you've been in the pattern of not appreciating can and will be reversed. Perhaps you used to complain about the government, your spouse, her hair, his clothes, and lack of money you have in the bank. Then your cranky neighbor angrily came over and forced you to mow your lawn, would you be hard on yourself? It's always your choice. Whatever situation it is, there is a potential seed of acceptance within it. By first finding that grain of acceptance inside yourself, you will harness a new way of experiencing the outer world and a whole new dimension of consciousness becomes available. When you appreciate that which everyone cannot, you step beyo nd the collective "sheeple" mind into a realm of knowing that anything is possible.

"To be upset over what you don’t have, is to waste what you do have." ~Ken Keyes JR.

Try this exercise tomorrow morning. When you wake up and look in the mirror at yourself, take a few extra minutes to practice just looking and accepting what you see and feel. Just be OK with whatever your mind interprets, judges and projects onto that mirror image. Practice accepting your looks, your personality and your life just as they are. Remember, what you see with your mind is filtered through your imagination. Not everyone sees you the way you see you, we know your ideas aren't always going to reflect the real you. The real you, the infinite you is the soul that lives behind your eyes beyond the consciousness of the heart. Just practice appreciation first and approval will come later. Eventually in time you will totally accept what is here, on the inside and outside.

If you should ever feel off track, get overly upset about something, or simply trapped down in the dumpsters of your life, you are simply not focusing your attention upon what you appreciate. The most orgasmic energies in the Universe are available right there, right here, inside you now. Don't wait for them! It’s just about opening yourself up to experiencing them. It's a way of being with yourself, others and the Universe. Always noticing what you love about yourself takes practice to become a habit. The first nurturing, healing-feeling you can muster will grow stronger in you, when you make time to enjoy it. Let this new heartfelt channel of energy be the #1 focus of your day and watch in amazement as it blossoms throughout your life.

"The ordinary man lives in the brain unaware of himself in the Heart. The enlightened one lives in the Heart.
When he moves about and deals with people and things, he knows that what he sees is not separate from the one Supreme Reality which he realized in the Heart as his own Self." ~Ramana

The secret to mastering anything in your life is in how much FUN you can have within your experience. The vibration of appreciation is so enjoyable and contagious that it will change you and everyone's lives around you! The heartfelt feeling of gratitude contains magical seeds that plant the most enlightening, loving, delightful experiences to enjoy!! You plant one seed of appreciation with your spouse today, and before you know it you'll harvest the sweet fruit. By planting 100 seeds of gratitude a day you'll have an abundant fortunate future indeed. I challenge you to live your life believing that there is NOTHING that you cannot appreciate. Let's see how creative you are. If you can appreciate something that you've NEVER ever been able to appreciate you'll be one step closer to becoming an appreciation master.

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In Search Of The Feminine Archetype

I often wonder what the world would be like if women were in
charge of it instead of men. It would definitely be an altogether
different place. Moreover, it's hard to escape the sneaking
suspicion that it would probably be a far better place too.
In watching the attack on New York, and the resulting military
response, this masculine aspect to events is most striking. Men
planned and carried out the attack on the USA. Government men
around the world speak words of aggression in response, and
rapidly commit masculine military strikes, depriving many
innocent people of their lives and homes; all in the name of
peace and the sanctity of human life. Nowhere in any of this do
we see the feminine archetype present - only the masculine.
Indeed, such is the domination of the masculine archetype, the
feminine does not seem even slightly relevant.
In his excellent book, 'The Alphabet Versus The Goddess', Leonard
Shlain provides compelling evidence for an astonishing phenomenon
present in human history. His essential contention is that the
rise of literacy in the form of alphabetic writing has led to an
over-emphasis upon masculine left-brain thinking at the expense
of the feminine right-brain. This has resulted in a decline of
the feminine archetype within the cultures where literacy has
been introduced. Not only has the Goddess herself declined as the
primary deity, in favor of her masculine competitor, but women
themselves rapidly become subjected to extreme debasement.
Shlain is not alone in this contention. In fact, he is in good
company. Neither Socrates, Buddha or Christ wanted their
teachings committed to writing, but instead subscribed to the
oral tradition. Their teachings were only preserved in written
form decades or (in the case of the Buddha) centuries after their
deaths. More recently, anthropologist Claude Levi-Strauss stated:
'There is one fact that can be established: the only phenomenon
which, always and in all parts of the world, seems to be linked
with the appearance of the establishment of
hierarchical societies, consisting of masters and slaves, and
where one part of the population is made to work for the other'.
In essence, the conflict is between Word and Image, and the way
our brains accept and integrate information from both. The
masculine left-brain function is primarily associated with logic,
numeracy, abstraction, analysis, reduction, writing and speech.
The feminine right-brain is non-verbal and its language is that
of image. It controls non-logical states, views things in
concrete fashion rather than abstract, and is connected to
intuition. It is both creative and nurturing, and is holistic in
viewing things in an 'all-at-once' fashion.
Thus, the two are very different and both have valid
contributions to make. Ideally, a balance of both is required.
Yet, throughout history, it has been the masculine left-brain
that has dominated, and this can be traced back to the profound
change that writing has had upon us.
The earliest written work that continues to influence the modern
world is the Old Testament. Moreover the Jews, the first race to
derive their entire religious effort from the written word, soon
came to display this split between masculine and feminine
functions. Immediately, we see the battle between Word and Image
displayed. Of the Ten Commandments, the first is that there
should be no other gods besides Jehovah. The second is that there
should be no graven images or likeness of ANYTHING in heaven, on
earth, on in the oceans!
Thus, in the first two commandments alone, we see the function of
the right-brain/feminine function completely banned. Moreover,
the previous rich diversity of gods and goddesses, representing
all the aspects of creation's mysteries in which we are immersed,
are replaced by an abstract, single, 'male' God who is 'out
there' somewhere, and definitely NOT part of Creation itself. We
can only learn about this abstraction through the written and
spoken word (left-brain & masculine), and NOT through image and
creativity (right-brain & feminine).
In addition, and in contrast to the all-inclusive nature of other
religions of the time, Judaism was peculiar in being the only
religion in which God had seemingly created a 'Chosen People'
with whom he would share himself in exclusion to all other
nations upon the earth. This divisiveness is a distinctively
masculine function, and contrasts sharply with the more holistic
all-inclusive universal character of the feminine archetype.
Indeed, this 'chosen people' characteristic was later adopted
from the religions that took Judaism as their root; namely
Christianity and Islam. Here too, the abstract monotheistic male
god, separate from and often condemning his creation, and who
gives his revelation only through the written and spoken word,
was adopted in preference to the accepting embracing Mother
Goddess, who speaks through the vast diversity of Creation, as
well as through image and inner intuitive seeking.
These religions, in their most extreme forms, adopted intensely
repressive attitudes towards women. There is plenty of evidence
to suggest that the founders did not necessarily display
antipathy towards women themselves. However, their later male
adherents definitely did display such tendencies, which has
led to the repression, and even persecution, of women throughout
the centuries. The most extreme example of this is the Witch
Trials in both Europe and America.
It was only in the 20th century that women's rights began to
truly recover from the negative bombardment that has been
inflicted upon them for millenia. Interestingly, this was also
the era that brought us Television, Cinema, a huge surge in
interest in Art, and more recently, Computer Graphics. This may
be no coincidence, since all of these communication media are
IMAGE-oriented. They stimulate the right-brain feminine side. As
a consequence of these new technologies, traditional literacy has
been under attack in the Western world, and has even started to
The act of writing itself is now, for the first time in history,
being carried out by both hands at once, through the use of
computer keyboards. Thus, the left-brain/right-hand dominance is
breaking down, and giving way to a more brain-balanced mode of
putting words into print.
This is not so much an issue of Feminism, and of women having the
right to be jet pilots. The more important issue is the welfare
of the feminine principle itself. When this was debased with the
decline of the Goddess and right-brain activity, women themselves
were 'literally' denigrated. When the feminine archetype is
restored to its rightful place in our civilization, as is
beginning to take place, the fortunes of women themselves must
necessarily rise too.
At present, the trap women find themselves in is that they can
certainly succeed in a man's world. However, to do so, they often
end up behaving more like a man than most men do! In other
words, a woman in today's world may eventually get the top
position she seeks, but somewhere along the line, she has lost
some, or even most, of her femininity. Conversely, a man who
seeks a top job must always over-emphasize his masculine traits,
and rarely reveal his feminine ones.
This demonstrates that the male left-brain archetype still
dominates our culture. It does not matter what physical body you
happen to have been born with, success in our culture requires
the adoption of the left-brain mindset. A woman has to adopt it
in order to compete equally with men. She cannot easily do so on
her own terms, as a fully feminine women.
The most desperately needed place for the feminine archetype at
present is the arena of international politics. Here, the absurd
polarization of left-brain dominated men threatens the whole
human race with potential annihilation. Absurdly simplistic
analyses of extremely complex issues are trotted out, and acted
upon violently, without any effort to seek to understand or
empathize with the deeper issues involved. This situation is the
masculine tendency for analysis and reduction carried to
ridiculous extremes.
So what can we do? Decide that in your personal life, you will
work to develop your right-brain qualities to their fullest
extent. This can be a difficult challenge for both sexes, such is
the dominance of the male archetype and the power of alphabetic
literacy upon our brains. Seek to promote these qualities in your
life to the fullest extent possible, and encourage others who are
trying to do the same. At the same time, it should be said that
people who are overly biased towards the right-brain function
should develop their LEFT-brain skills. Remember that it is
balance that is sought and true brain integration. Both sides
have their vital parts to play. One if not better or worse than
the other. They are just different.
Let us hope that this new millennium, and the raising of
consciousness that all metaphysical people are hoping for, will
herald the permanent reinstatement of the feminine principle in
society. If this can be progressively achieved, the world must
surely change beyond description. And for the better!
Copyright 2010, Asoka Selvarajah. All Rights Reserved.

Asoka Selvarajah is a writer on personal growth and spirituality,
and the author of 'The 7 Golden Secrets To Knowing Your Higher
Self'. His work helps people achieve their full potential, deepen
their understanding of mystical truth, and discover their soul's
purpose. Learn more about his work at:

Create The Life You Want

Hopefully, after reading my last post Two Easy Step to End the Sadness, you can see how we sabotage ourselves at any given moment because of our negative self talk.  You also know that loving yourself first and unconditionally will help you in leaps and bounds to overcoming depression.

Today, I want to give you an exercise you can easily do that will help you create your life by design instead of by default.  There is no better way to understand and explain something other then experiencing yourself.

Close your eyes, take a deep breath in, fill your lungs up with air, all the way to the bottom, like a balloon.
Now let it out…slowly…keep your thoughts with the air you are breathing in and out.
Be Aware.
Do this 3 times.
When you feel your shoulders droop and your feeling a bit more relaxed I want you to take a deep breath and in, and in your mind Yell STOP! At the top of your lungs.
Visualize the letters S-T-O-P in front of you, on a movie theater screen. Imagine the words in any shape, color or form you wish.
Continue to stare at the word and notice that it starts to fade. It begins to disintegrate and fall apart; completely disappearing from your view. All that is left behind is a big, white, blank screen in front of you.

This is your blank canvas of life. This is where you can create. This is where you will paint all of the experiences that you could possible imagine that you would like to experience in life.

See the picture, you are the star! Use vivid colors and don’t forget to feel the emotions you experience from seeing your film. This is the most important thing to remember because your emotions rule your world. Keep them positive, peaceful and loving.

If you are feeling depressed and just want to feel better, then go ahead and create that movie. See and feel yourself laughing and enjoying life. See yourself having constant feelings of bliss and being free and most of all, feel the peace and love you would experience.

The more often you put this exercise into practice, the bigger your rewards will be.
What we think about expands. So start thinking about happiness and well-being instead of sadness and sickness.

Be Well

Two Easy Steps to End The Sadness

Depression is a virus that has quietly invaded your mind. It crept in like a cancer and little by little has taken away your life as you were meant to live it.

The mind is a very powerful creating instrument and a lot like a child. If left unattended, it will run wild and make decisions that may be harmful. If not given proper guidance, the mind will learn to operate on survival  instinct and reactions alone. With no tender loving care and a little discipline, it will rebel.

The brain wires and rewires itself according to our very own thoughts and feelings.
Our thinking causes feelings, and feelings directly affect our brain. I won’t go into the long details, but feel free to check Wikipedia's Chemical Synapse if you wish.

In layman’s terms, depression has been brought to you by your brain, by the continuous accumulation of negative thoughts and feelings over many years. The seed of depression may have been planted when you were very young, or could be the result of a traumatic event. Either way, your brain has wired itself negatively and you are left with a chemical imbalance which can cause sadness, depression, feelings of worthlessness and many other mental and physical ailments.

Here is a video explaining brain function as it pertains to depression.

Being able to rise up, and live a happy life free of depression is not a one time, snap your finger and you are cured type of occurrence. It’s a new way of life; a journey in which you have a golden opportunity to discover who you really are; to figure out exactly what it is you like and what you don’t like.

If you want to overpower depression you should think of it as an enemy. Sometimes the enemy disguises itself as a friend, but the on the first opportunity it will bring you to your knees. You have to get mad! You have to be fed up! You have to get angry enough to take action against it. You have to be determined to take your life back. The intensity of your desire to live a happy life will be the fuel that will sustain you.

So the first thing you need to do is to simply make a decision. Decide right now, deep in your heart that you are taking back your life. You have had enough suffering and you now want nothing more then to just feel better. Decide to embark on a new life, one baby step at a time and promise to never give up on your own happiness. Know that you will win this battle, making depression a distant memory.

After you have gotten mad enough at the monster inside your head, and your mind is made up to live a truly happy life, the next thing you must do is to begin to be your own best friend. Becoming your own best friend is a very empowering process. To be your own best friend should be as natural as breathing, but somehow is not.

Think about this. What if you had to live the rest of your life attached to a clone of yourself? There was no way to escape the never ending chatter. What if everything your clone said, you believed? And the more you believed it, the more the clone would talk about what you believed.

Imagine that person talking negatively in your ear all day, every day. Saying things like ‘forget that! Don’t even try it! You know you can’t do that! Don’t be crazy. You’re not talented enough. Stop wasting your time. Get a real job. Life is about suffering, deal with it!’ How do you suppose it would affect your life?

Flip the coin now. Think of how you might feel if this clone loved you unconditionally. What would be possible for you, if all you heard all day was nothing but loving and encouraging words? Wouldn’t it be better to hear things like, ‘You should try that! It might be fun! You are beautiful and perfect, just as you are. Enjoy the journey of life, what can we learn today? You are amazing, I Love you.’ How would this affect you?

I’m sure you see my point. You are with your thoughts 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You have the choice to keep talking down to yourself, or you can start lifting yourself up.
It’s time. Step up, turn the tables and YOU take charge.

Start to notice how your inner voice talks to you. Pay attention and lead it in a more positive direction. Replace negative thoughts with more reassuring ones and you will begin to feel better and better.

Be persistent in training your mind to join your side. It will resist the change. Becoming your own best friend is like having your own personal loving life coach, cheering you on at all times. There is no replacement for having a dedicated support system helping, guiding, and comforting you along the way.